A law of triad. 9 ways to learn logic and change life

A law of triad. 9 ways to learn logic and change life

What do you imagine when you hear “triad”? Something spiritual? Or many people might think suspicious about it. It does sound a little bit strange, like a word used for some kind of spiritual business.

Triad, however, is a word from Buddhism, which means “if you act well, it comes back to you, and if you act badly it returns to you”. And it should not be taken as just a word from Buddhism.

There is always someone around you who challenge and make a success. Take a close look at them. They are practicing a Buddhism word of triad in their everyday life or in business.

 

So let’s begin!



 

 A law of triad: 9 ways to learn logic and change life

 

1. What is triad?

I mentioned above that successful people are practicing triad in everyday lives, but let me explain in detail. 

As you take a close look at successful people, they have following things in common. 

-always acting to be successful

-never look back and feel depressed

-bring success from failure

 There are more, but you can agree about them, can’t you? 

To be successful, there should be “a factor” for success. This is the triad in everyday life, and you can step up in your life by adopting triad in the everyday life.

 The following tips may sound easy, but actually practicing them is a little bit challenging. Especially in modern society, the conflicts between people always arise. As the relationship between each other is getting thinner, these are maybe hard to practice.

 But successful people are using the idea of triad in life and business. Don’t think it is meaningless. Let’s try.

 

2. Have a positive attitude

You can’t succeed with negative attitude. Sometimes entertainers on TV say they are negative-minded. But if they really have a negative attitude, they can’t be on TV or in magazines. People come in front of the public have positive attitude, and the saying is just their performance.

So try to force yourself to be positive-minded. Especially if you are a shy person, it is important to force yourself to positive minds.

If you are reprimanded by your boss, think “good, I could hate my boss a little”. I know you are just forcing yourself, but it is better than to get depressed. It doesn’t matter if you don’t like your boss. You just be careful not to show it on your face, and get along with him/her as business. There is no problem.

If you argue with your partner or family, think you have a joy of reconciliation. This is also under duress, but better than to be controlled by the feeling of depression, anger and so on.

 

3. Have a right goal

Everybody have some goal they want to accomplish. To lose weight, to get a qualification, to be promoted, to get married, etc. Making an effort is important.

 However, effort results in two: success or failure. The results depend on following factors.

 -there is no plan for continuity

-the schedule is set up wrongly

-starting with full effort from the beginning

-setting a goal too hard, and give up

-there is no friend, just starting on ourselves and give up alone

 There are more factors, but people who give up have these in common.

 And do you know there is one more important crossroad? It is “to set up right goal”.

 For example, there is a person who would achieve the ideal weight by losing 5 kg more, but this person is jobless.

 What you think? He needs to try to lose weight, or seek for job first. Many people would say look for a job first. To work is important, but there is a case you should try to lose weight first.

 By losing 5 kg more and become an ideal weight, the impression from appearance improves. Especially for jobs requiring communication with people from outside, the impression of appearance is one of the important factors.

 Therefore, the correct way to set up a goal in this case is “try to lose 5 kg so I can find job smoothly”.

 Looking for a job seems more important when just looking at the surface of common sense, but by thinking thoroughly about “the road to success”, the priority may change.

 As one of the triad, it is important to decide the steps for success, and aggressively act for what is needed to be successful.

 

4. Don’t regret

Successful people are always moving forward. Sometimes they stop, but never go back for success. In other words, “never look back and regret the past.”

 You can’t change the failure of the past. As long as you are not in the story of science-fiction or in “Draemon” comic, the failure of the past can’t be recovered. So there is no use to regret the past. 

The failure of the past is “a reference for the future”. Wise people don’t forget their mistakes, but never regret them. They just keep them in mind not to repeat them again. 

If the problem is solved by regretting, you can be depressed to the utmost. But if nothing settles, then it is just a waste of time. Instead it’s better to think of the solutions. 

You in the past are “a reference” for yourself in future, not “a paper of reconsideration”.

 

5.Don’t be pessimistic

Those who are younger than the early 30s are the generation “grew up in series of bad news”. In the era of a bubble economy, Japan was filled with happy news. Everyone was smiling. 

However after the collapse of the bubble economy, only bad news such as the bankrupt, suicides, and increase of crimes are on TV. In such environment, it is natural to become introverted and pessimistic.

 But no successful people are pessimistic. It doesn’t mean they are always optimistic, but they know not to get hurt emotionally by things they are not related to.

 You can’t do anything about bad news on TV, so you don’t need to worry too much. You may feel sad by crimes, accidents, or other sad news on TV, but you are not the one directly hurt.

 You can get angry about the news of murder, but not just getting angry, think about buying an alarm for self-protection or think about a countermeasure and how you should act on emergency. It is smarter idea to live in recent society.

 In the Great East Japan Earthquake, it was a principle of Japanese people to worry, but nobody would be saved by sorrow. It is important to pray for the soul of victims, but go to a disaster-stricken area for volunteering is also a proper choice in terms of “result”.

 Everybody feel an agitation by some incidents. What is important is to think how you find lessons and how you act from that incident. You will eventually find “what you should do”.

 

6. Don’t criticize yourself

Kiyoshi Nakahata, a coach of Japanese professional baseball team, was a very popular player himself. Saying “Perfect!” was habit of his, even when he was not. He has an optimistic character and never criticized himself. He was persuading himself by often yelling “perfect!”

 Of course, no words should be used for self-protection, but to self-criticize you is even worse.

Successful people know the weak point of them, but never self-criticize. Instead, they think of how to use their weak points effectively, or seek for the ways to compensate for their weakness.

Everybody have weakness. No one is perfect. So it is wrong to be pessimistic about your weak points. Think of the ways and actions for success together with your weakness.

 

7. Invisible effort

It is said that “someone is always watching your effort”, and I believe in this saying. “Showing off your effort purposely” is not a triad, it’s just an appeal.

 To make an effort and to appeal is different. To appeal means to draw an attention and interest of others, but you need to have real ability or actual result to really draw someone’s interests.

 In other word, “just making an effort in public” means you are “just appealing your ability, while you don’t really have it”. Or just trying to pretend you are a hard-worker though you don’t really have a will to make an effort.

 You can convince someone at first, but will not be trusted for a long with just “a visible effort”. On the other hand those who are secretly making an effort can draw an interest of others for “why he/she can do that?” And when people realize that the person is secretly working hard, he/she can have a great trust.

 This is a triad. “Invisible effort” is difficult to be evaluated. Some people lose a meaning to continue because you never know when you will be evaluated. But believe someone is always watching you, and for sure you draw people’s attention as you continue to make an effort. It is difficult never to show your effort, but at least avoid not showing off all the time.

 

8. Support aggressively

Those who don’t practice triad seem to lack in confidence. Meanwhile those who do practice triad seem to be both kind and strong, and look very attractive.

 One reason for this difference is “aggressive support”. In other words, it is “the spirit to help others without being asked”.

 When supporting others, the important thing is not to think “I am helping”. Think it is a natural thing and support people with an attitude of unconcern. It is like you naturally go to supermarket if your fridge is empty; nothing’s special.

 Even if you think it is not special, people take you as “a very kind person”, and you would feel a bit confused for their reaction.

 This is a triad from aggressive support. You feel good when helping people. I feel the same. But if to help someone is a natural thing, you would not feel so special about it. It’s the same thing as losing an impression for a movie as you repeatedly watch it. By repeating, the special feelings fade away. As you continue to help people, you can honestly say “it is a matter of course”.

 By helping people, someone will help you when you are in need. This is “if you act well, it comes back to you” of a triad. You’ll realize if you were aggressively supporting others, when you are in trouble.

 I can’t talk so big to you, but I’m trying to help others as much as possible and not to be annoying. By believing someone would help you, you can positively challenge many things.

 

9. Accept the difficulties

No matter how you work hard or to live along the rules of triad, you can’t avoid facing difficulties. It is impossible to have everything going smoothly, and overcoming difficulties leads us to improvement and success.

 But to have the feeling of avoiding difficulties is natural. Many people actually ignore it when facing problems. I can understand that. I am not a strong person, and sometimes try to run away from difficulties.

 On the other hand, people who success never look away from difficulties. Instead they think of them as “chances to step-up” and take them positively. It is not easy to do so, but I think this is what makes a difference whether a person is successful or not.

 If you think what is in front of you is a difficulty, it means you don’t know how to deal with it. That’s why you want to run away from it and feel stressed. But if you think it as “a chance to learn a way to deal with it”, a difficulty becomes a subject for your improvement.

 Successful people naturally understand this, and positively move toward difficulties.

 I also try to do so, but quite difficult. So I strongly tell myself “this is a chance” when facing a difficult problem. By doing so, I can suddenly come up with new ideas or way out of it.

 

I  hope you liked my article.

 

Triad is exactly what I wrote above, and people who practice them in everyday life are successful people. It is not easy to do in the system of modern society, but not easy doesn’t mean to give up. Please remember to practice these in your life and take a success in your hands with triad.

 

Conclusion

A law of triad

9 ways to learn logic and change life

1. What is triad?

2. Have a positive attitude

3. Have a right goal

4. Don’t regret

5. Don’t be pessimistic

6. Don’t criticize yourself

7. Invisible effort

8. Support aggressively

9. Accept the difficulties