7tips How to Avoid Top Divorce Reasons Incompatibility

7tips How to Avoid Top Divorce Reasons Incompatibility
It is said that one in three married couple in Japan gets divorced. It might be out of date that once people get married they should stay together through life. Although the number of divorce has been increasing, personality conflict is the most frequent cause of divorce. Since the two who are raised in different environment gets married and build a family, it is quite natural that there is a difference between them. However, you may be able to avoid divorce caused by personality conflict with the tips.

So I will introduce 7 points how to avoid divorce caused by personality conflict which is the top divorce reason.



7tips How to Avoid Top Divorce Reasons Incompatibility

 

No1. Do not expect


As for marriage life, it is important not to expect a partner too much. Since it rarely happens what you expect in your marriage life, it is no use expecting to your partner. This is because the two who are raised in different environment gets married and build a family so it is natural that there is difference between them.

It is also wrong thought that your partner would accept the difference. People tend to think their spouse accepts everything, but you should not think like that. You will be able to let the difference pass without notice by not expecting your partner.

 

No2. Don’t forget your spouse used to be a stranger


Once people get married, people tend to completely depend on their partner and expect too much because they become so familiar. However, please recall married couple used to be a stranger, lived in different environment and had different diet habits. Don’t you think personality conflict is trivial thing when you remember the fact?

 

No.3. Do not deny partner’s way of thinking


When you get into a fuss about incompatibility, you should not say “I think your perspective and personality is crazy. I can’t understand!” It would just undermine your relationship.

Even though you cannot understand some points of your partner’s personality, you should not point out them directly. You should soften the tones of the words like “That’s just the way of it” “Now there’s a thought”

 

No4. Teaching material by negative example


You should recall it in your mind when you cannot accept your personality. As I mentioned in the article, thinking “Now there’s a thought” makes you calm when you get into a fuss about trifle, but when you cannot absolutely accept your partner’s thought you should think “I will never become like that”. That means teaching material by negative example. You do not have to try to understand your partner’s everything. Especially as for what you cannot absolutely accept about your partner, you should turn a blind eye.

It is important to calm down by teaching material by negative example for avoiding divorce caused by personality conflict.

 

No.5. Discussion


It often happens marred couple has different perspective. In such a case, talk with your partner about the difference or your thought thoroughly. You will be sure to realize your partner’s new aspects and your partner will realize your new aspects.

But you cannot realize that until you discuss, so you should not deny their thought or personality. It is important to discuss calmly.

 

No.6. Compromise


Compromise is one of important factors of marriage. Always imposing your own way will not work at all. You should get clear what is important you and what you can compromise. You would encounter what you cannot accept partner’s behavior in your marriage life. In such a case, you should get clear what you can stand and what you cannot.

 

No.7. Think about the same taste


If you think about divorce because of personality conflict, you should not forget that you got married with your partner because you are compatible with your partner. People tend to focus on bad points when they find a single bad point. You should remember the good points. You might not be able to find nothing but bad points.

However if you could find some good points about partner’s personality, you should not get divorced. You had better divorce when you could not find any good points about your partner.

 

How was that?

I introduced 7 points how to avoid divorce caused by No1 divorce reason personal conflict. No has the same personality. So it is difficult, interesting and very human because it has no instruction. Personal conflict applies not only to divorce cause but also other matters.

However, there are something what you cannot accept and not all the more because of married couple. Even if you have something you cannot accept about your partner, you should not get divorced soon. Why don’t you try the ways? You should be careful about divorce because divorce is much harder than marriage.

 

Summary

7tips How to Avoid Top Divorce Reasons Incompatibility

No.1. Do not expect
No.2. Don’t forget your spouse used to be a stranger
No.3. Do not deny partner’s way of thinking
No.4. Teaching material by negative example
No.5. Discussion
No.6. Compromise
No.7. Think about the same taste