Want to understand male psychology and get along with a person you love! Want to spend more time with boyfriend! And eventually get married…? That is girl’s mind. You may be acting to do so, but sometimes can be acting totally opposite of male psychology!
First of all, males and females have different roles in life from ancient times. Males go hunting, so they want to work rationally and logically. Females protect family and raise children, so they are sensitive to people’s feelings and treasure conformity.
Because they are so different, males and females think differently. Understand male psychology and attract his heart!
7 male psychologies we often misunderstand
-Love cooking!?
To improve female ability, first thing you may think of is cooking. It is true, but females who are good at cooking are not always loved. It is often said to “grab his heart through his stomach”, but it goes only for those who are really good at cooking.
You need almost professional ability. Rather, with male psychology, it is important for them to see you “making effort for him even you are not a good cook”. It’s OK if you are not a good cook, you can get better gradually.
To tell the truth, the clean and organized room is more appealing to male psychology than incomplete ability of cooking.
-Have fun with quiz!?
Enjoyable conversation at dating or when eating. Don’t you ask with excitement “do you know what happened then?”, to warm up the atmosphere? May be you are trying to make it more fun, but it is only you.
For a male psychology, he may be frustrated thinking “don’t keep it and just say it!”. It is often said that there is no punch line for female talks, so if you don’t have much episode to conclude, it will make him even more frustrated.
Similar to this, answering a question with a question can frustrate him as well. For example, avoid such conversation; “How old are you?” “How old do I look?”
-”Watch out!” while driving is no good
During a drive, don’t you react too much and say “watch out!”? You say it as a warning, but he may think “I know, shut up”. Especially many males are proud of their driving techniques.
I’m sure you don’t criticize your boyfriend’s driving, but just remember that a word “watch out!” can be an interference for him.
-Skirt + leggings = fashionable!?
When dressing up for a date, leggings don’t seem to have good reputation. Males can’t understand what is good about them, they are not sexy at all.
It’s OK if you go somewhere to move a lot, but better to avoid leggings for special date with nice mood. Wear stockings instead.
-Asking “why are you in a bad mood?” !?
Your boyfriend suddenly gets in bad mood and you confuse. Let’s ask why! No, this is not a good idea. For male psychology, being asked “why? what happened?” sounds he is blamed.
If you ask why, he might feel worse. He is often mad with just a little thing, so you better avoid asking to make him more angry.
Stay away from him for a while, and ask “hey, why were you angry?” after he is feeling better, maybe he will tell you honestly. It can just be a pretty reason like “because you said that celebrity is hot”.
-”Sense it” is not good?
Now, this is when you want to be understood your feeling. In female society, “sensing” is a natural thing. This is difficult to understand for males, however. When male say “what do you want to eat?”, expecting him to understand what you really want to eat by just saying “anything is OK”, is impossible.
In female’s mind, she may be thinking “want to go to a nice restaurant because it is the first date” but “I have some likes and dislikes of foods”. As a result, she answers “(if it is a good place to some extent) anything is good”. However, for males, “if anything is OK, then let’s go to a pub”.
Male can’t sense so much. You should tell straight with words if you want to be understood.
-Talking and asking about every single problem is not good!?
In many times, what females call “problems” are just complaints or they already know answers but just want to be encouraged. For males, they think for appropriate advice because they think they are relied.
If they do so, you might say “well, but…” and can frustrate them. In such case, you should say “this is just my complains…” or “I want to be encouraged” in the beginning.
Then males know that you just want to be listened. However, you sometimes want to rely on them. You need to make it clear for yourself whether you want just to be listened or you want some advice.
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They were 7 male psychologies people might misunderstand. Weren’t you doing them unconsciously? Way to use brain is said to be different for males and females.
Generally, females are keen to sense emotions, and males take a look at things and think rationally. You should know the difference first. He is not always as same as you.
You have different bodies, brains and ways of thinking. You can see things from his point of view, if you know male psychology. Males think more simple than you expect, so just understanding some important points will help you a lot. Let’s attract his heart!
Summary
7 male psychologies we often misunderstand
-Love cooking!?
-Have fun with quiz!?
-”Watch out!” while driving is no good
-Skirt + leggings = fashionable!?
-Asking “why are you in a bad mood?” !?
-”Sense it” is not good?
-Talking and asking about every single problem is not good!?