We all come across various difficulties in life. If we worry alone, it is easy for us to lose our cool. When we worry about something or get stuck, we somewhat know what we should do, however, we sometimes can’t stop worrying as it is hard for us to control our emotions and anger.
So when your friends are worried about something, how should you help them by giving advice? It can be difficult to give advice as you inwardly want to make a good impression on others or try to control your friends.
This may lead to codependent relationships. In other words, it can be like a relationship between a fortune teller and a client. The important thing is that you should care about your friends and give them advice so that they can feel comfortable and think positively.
When you worry about something and want to talk to someone, in general you already have solutions. However, you are uncertain about your answers. That’s why you want to talk to someone. Just keep it mind and try to learn how to give advice in good ways. Also, it is important to respect your friends’ thoughts and make them feel free to talk to you.
Here are some ways to make your friends comfort by giving advice.
9 reasons to give advice for her comfort
They can speak of their distress
Giving advice means that you are a shoulder to cry on. When your friends need a hand, they really want to talk to you.
They don’t know what to do since they may be confused, disturbed, worried and depressed, and then it makes their brain explode. So, if they talk to you what they are worried, they could find solutions faster.
They can feel relieved
If you show that you understand or agree with what your friends have said, it is easier for them to speak of their distress. You should not give them advice before hearing the whole story or stop them.
It is important to listen to their story and be thoughtful. If it is easy for them to talk to you, they can talk about their feelings and feel relieved.
They can feel secure
If you are a sympathetic listener, your friends open their heart. When they talk to you and feel relieved, you can build trust in a relationship. They may be able to talk to you frankly.
By listening to them, they can feel secure and you can break the ice. When they think you are cordial, they feel comfortable.
They can organise their thoughts
Your friends might have been confused at the beginning, however they can organise their thoughts by talking to someone. Even though they show their feelings, they can sort out their feelings. It can be hard for them to deal with mixed feelings, but they will be able to realise what they should do.
They can know what to do
Your friends can be emotional or have too much pride, however they can regain their presence of mind by getting advice. When they organise their thoughts, they can calm down to think what to do. This means that they can find ways to solve their problems.
They can build inner strength
By talking to someone, your friends can be motivated. They could relieve anxiety and would not be worried at all. They can be encouraged by talking and gaining sympathy. It is effective to have one loyal supporter rather than many friends.
They can develop self-awareness
You can lead your friends to the right path depending on how you listen to them. You should not condescend to them. Just be cordial and do not hurt their pride. If you are dependable, they can accept your advice even if it is tough.
They can think positively
Even though they decide what to do, there may be some obstacles. However, they can be positive if they get good advice. It is important to sympathize with them, but not to agree with them. Try to put yourself into their shoes so that they can find solutions.
They can solve a problem by themselves
You should not let your friends rely on you when you give advice. Even if you know the best solution, just try to advice step by step. In fact, they know what they should do. So what you need is to give them a hand to them and respect their thoughts.
Giving advice means that not only giving someone advice but listening to him/her. Hearing and listening are different. It is important to listen to their story.
Everyone is able to find a solution. When you give your friends advice, just wait and see until they can feel comfortable and solve a problem.
Summary
9 reasons to give advice for her comfort
They can speak of their distress
They can feel relieved
They can feel secure
They can organise their thoughts
They can know what to do
They can build inner strength
They can develop self-awareness
They can think positively
They can solve a problem by themselves