5 ways to change sad farewell to good memory

5 ways to change sad farewell to good memory
It may sound too frank, but we all die alone. We meet many people in our lives, spend time together, and eventually separate. Some farewells may be sad. Today, I will introduce ways to change sad farewells to good memories.



5 ways to change sad farewell to good memory

 

-Write down your emotions


After experiencing painful farewell, write your feelings and emotions in a note book. You can add some lines in your diary, if you keep one. (If you don’t keep a diary, you don’t need to write everyday but please try.)

Just write your emotions. Enjoyable occasions and happiness can be kept within you, but sad experiences shouldn’t be piled up. Releasing them by writing will make you calm, and you will be able to see the experience objectively. It will be organized within you, and you can talk about your experience more clearly to other people.

 

-Just have a good cry


Some people consider crying is embarrassing, and hold back their tears. However, recent studies revealed that crying can reduce stress more than laughing. In addition to the stress reducing effect of tears, they stimulate and activate parasympathetic nervous, which increase blood flow of brain known as “nervous to control relax”.

Also after experiencing certain relaxing effect, tears will also activate “serotonin nervous”, which are said to create motivations. As you can see, crying has high advantages. To get over with your feeling, you should cry once. “Taking care of eyelids” at the same time is recommended.

You can’t avoid swelling of eyes after crying. Therefore, after a good cry, drink tea (black tea has pain-relieving effect) and squeeze a tea bag lightly and place it on your eyelids. It will prevent swelling.

 

-Prepare to bring back to memory


Any memories can be triggered to brought back by something. Because you are forcing to seal off memories of sad farewells, you don’t know what to do when you once recall them. First of all, every memory is your important experience.

Please keep in mind that you have a chance to recall sad memories at any time. Especially about separation regarding love, you will feel stress (which is difficult to deal with) about yourself and your ex-partner, if you recall all the emotions of the past. Therefore, you need to see things objectively. It is recommended to compare your past and present, and think what you have improved. Your burden may be reduced.

When you recall bereavement of your important person, stay with that memory. You can cry if you become sad again. Try crying to care for that memory, instead of giving pessimistic tears.

 

-To recover physically


When we try to recover from the experience of sad farewell, we realize that our mind is occupied with emotions and moods coming from the unconscious feeling toward person you have parted. That’s why we make effort to do something about it. Because these two opposite feelings waver your feeling, you would experience unstable condition both physically and mentally.

When you are in such situation, physical condition is easier to recover than mental. Especially, pay close attention to sleeping and eating. Malfunction of autonomous nervous system could lead to lack of sleep, so you may need to think about taking sleeping pills to get over with the problem.

 

-Prepare some breathers


Please don’t take “breather” in a wrong way. Your mind can’t tolerate everything if you confront sad experience head-on. Gradually (and aggressively) prepare some time not to think is important.

It maybe important to concentrate on spending regular days smoothly, but challenging new things or things you wanted to try is also important. However, it is difficult to recall what you wanted to do at the moment, and you can’t really think about it in reality.

Therefore, I recommend you to write down what you want to try in a notebook or something. your mind is depressed when you are sad, but you can re-realize that you had interest in such things. Please write them down, and give them a try.

 

Could you find any helpful tips?

 

Summary

5 ways to change sad farewell to good memory

-Write down your emotions
-Just have a good cry
-Prepare to bring back to memory
-To recover physically
-Prepare some breathers