“Hey, Be confident” I guess lot of people are said by boss, friends or senior. Then everyone thinks”Ok, I will do it!”Could’t you really be confidence by that?There are such words of poet Mitsuo Aida.
“Only be conceit, not be confident. Oh, be ashamed be ashamed”
If you got be confidence forcibly, it is just conceit. Therefore you should like yourself rather than you have confidence. I talk about the method for that.
“Be confident” Makes Your Life In Trouble
So Many Men, So Many Minds. You Have Lots Of Minds.
The confident is opposite of the feeling that you do not want to show real weakness. In the proverb “A weak dog berg a lot”. It is right the thing.
“I want to be seen cool” or “I want to be seen in the man who can do it”. You just pretend to be confidence just act like “I am confidence”.
Therefore when you open this confidence,
・It is scary to know own weakness.
・You want to be blind about your weakness.
・It is scary that lack of your own ability is known to the others.
In fact, it is my story ten years ago.
I was full of confidence, and the work were favorable, too; “my life is totally easy!”I always thought this way, but one day I had fallen my life in sudden. Of course, I had nothing inside, but I just wore good clothes. It is alright you have part of bad yourself or uncool yourself. These are also yourself. These kind of weakness also sometimes are seen cool by the other.
Lesson 1: You might have many you. Let it go.
The most of the problem are solving naturally, if you accept yourself. If you do not pretend false yourself, you an communicate with the surround naturally. A organic vegetables are more famous than pesticide veges, aren’t they? It is the same method. Do not need to think too hard.
When you will through your confidence and accept yourself, the others will accept you. You don’t need to pretend or act. Be an organic vegetable. If there are many insects, you will think “it is ok. Eat myself”. Do not get rid of what you are not good at or you do not like.
When you pretend to be confident, you are away from your valuable experience.
Do you want to be a dull person? Or do you want to be a real interesting person?
Lesson 2: Be organic vegetable rather than dull pesticide vegetables.
Kenji Miyazawa Is A Master Of The Self-Acknowledgment
According to Be not Defeated by the Rain, Kenji Miyazawa might be the master of self-acknowledgment. Do what he thought, Live what he want. Please read the Be not Defeated by the Rain.
Be not Defeated by the Rainby Kenji Miyazawa
not losing to the rain
not losing to the wind
not losing to the snow nor to summer’s heat
with a strong body
unfettered by desire
never losing temper
always quietly smiling
every day four bowls of brown rice
miso and some vegetables to eat
count yourself last and put others before you
watching and listening, and understanding
and never forgetting
in the shade of the woods of the pines of the fields
being in a little thatched hut
if there is a sick child to the east
going and nursing over them
if there is a tired mother to the west
going and shouldering her sheaf of rice
if there is someone near death to the south
going and saying there’s no need to be afraid
if there is a quarrel or a lawsuit to the north
telling them to leave off with such waste
when there’s drought, shedding tears of sympathy
when the summer’s cold, wandering upset
called a nobody by everyone
without being praised
without being blamed
such a person
I want to become
Don’t you think it is good? Just be your self, it is great things isn’t it?
Lesson 3: Be not defeated by the rain.
One Man So Many Minds.
There is the proverb“so many men, so many minds”, but I think also “one men so many minds”. Each person have many expression and feeling. I hope you will accept every part of you, even if it is really uncool. You don’t need to be confidence, just be yourself. You are already full of charming.